Category: Symbols + Metaphors

Describe After

Anne Lamott often recounts words that a priest said to her once: “Sometimes Heaven is just a new pair of glasses.” A change in perspective. How many words and phrases flow easily from the lips of our culture when it comes to death and…


Raising kids is stamped with firsts. First steps, first words, first day of school, first time driving a car, first date.  There were many other firsts in the year following baby loss.  First Christmas without my babies.  First time a close friend had a…

Passing an Object

I wear a ring, daily, that has an imprint of a heart on the outside and their names inscribed on the inside. I also have a necklace that a friend gave me that has their names and birthdates delicately hanging from tiny pendants. The tattoo on my back has the birthdates of all four of my children.

Love Letter

(Note: I tried to write this on Mother’s Day, but I couldn’t. Finished it up today instead, the first day of my third trimester.) Of all the deserving mothers, this is written especially for those who are not able to hold all of their…


Sometimes I blame myself. If I had not wanted more, this never would have happened. Because I wanted, this pain was inflicted upon my family.